Lingerie:

Hot vs. Whore

This can be confusing. Our experience varies a lot on this one. One of us has seen more sassy scantly clad ladies than Mick Jagger, with the other two of us having more average experience. So let’s clear up a couple of terms: Hot=sexy, attractive, lustful, enticing, sensual. Whore= Sex for money, trash, hooker, skeez. So please don’t be confused, a women can be very sexy and provocative without accidently making it seem like they will expect a 100 bucks and a cab ride.

Lingerie has been around for a very long time, but was typically either painful or totally boring. Centuries ago women wore insanely tight corsets made of bone, lace and thick ribbon that was better at cracking the gals rib then getting the guy excited. Women’s underwear outside of some crazy contraption like this was typically thick, unrevealing and a snore. With the 30’s came the bra, but it was not until the 60’s and 70’s that a more contemporary and provocative type of undies came along. Women now had more choices in and new tools to put in their sexual toolbox. However, as soon as the average women got her hands on them so did the harlot on the corner and local “dancer” at the neighborhood strip club.

The delicate balance is to try and find the right mix of sex, sensuality and taboo without looking like an out of practice street walker. Part of the fun is dressing up and playing with the more naughty side of life that comes out when we get into character. Creating these novel and sexually provocative moments in a relationship are very important for keeping both parties excited and his eyes on the right girl (the one at home, not the one on the corner). However, over kill or a poorly fitted totally out of character get up from Fredrick’s could back fire. What to do about this? There are so many choices!!! Believe us, we know. A guy trying to pick out something sexy at Victoria’s Secret is as anxiety provoking as a single women trying to be buy a car from the local grease ball. Let’s meet up in the Solution and get some tips.

Lingerie: Solution

Know your comfort level. You don’t have to be totally exposed to be hot. You may be comfortable wearing pasties and a thong, but most women are a little more modest. The lingerie is just added spark to your complete package. The more comfortable with yourself the more confident you will be in the bedroom. This confidence will really help you turn up the heat more than the lingerie ever will. So, don’t be so exposed that it makes you anxious, and don’t cover up so much that you look like Mrs. Cleaver.

Stay away from clown shoes. Obviously you are not going to wear clown shoes to get it on with your guy, but bright red and black old school lingerie get ups will make you look like you work at the circus. Guys want you to look sexy, but still stylish.  Pastel and simple black or white get ups are much more effective for getting Johnny in the mood than dressing up like a bumblebee.

Get the right fit. Tight definitely mean hot in all cases. Jamming your curves into something that is two sizes too small is great for making yourself look like a jerk. Don’t be afraid to experiment with snug fitting boundary pushing combos, just don’t be bursting at the seams or rolling over the sides. A short free flowing negligee with a plunging neckline is a great way to look sexy on any woman.

Play with opposites. If you are generally a very provocative dresser, you may want to dress up like a librarian or farm girl. Ditch the lingerie all together and go conservative for a change. The same is true if you are always tight collared and covered up. Get your self into something a little more hot (dare we say whorish) and live it up. There is nothing wrong with being sexy. Mothers or religious/devote women can be sexy too.