Breaking Up
How To Break Up In Style
Break ups don’t have to be totally F**ked. There are ways to make them successful. We are not here to give you tips on how to help your inept boyfriend do a better job when he breaks up with you. Women spend way too much time falling into the role of guidance counselor and mother to their partners whenever something emotional (like a break up) is happening. Instead we are going to give you some tips on how to break things off with your man and do so with class.
There are definitely right and wrong ways to break up with someone. The right ways leave your pride and your humanity intact. They allow your now ex-sweetie to walk away bruised, but not broken. The wrong ways may feel great if you’re really pissed at your BF, but, in the long run, they hurt him and you more than necessary.
The first step is to really figure out why you want to call it off. Maybe he is a scumbag loser. Maybe there are problems that you have tried to solve together and cannot. Maybe your not in love or the attraction is gone. These are all sound reasons for ending it. Breaking up to run from minor problems in the relationship is not.
Next step is to map out a plan. Go over all the scenarios that could play out. Is he going to cry like a baby and blubber non stop? Will be go totally crazy and run out in traffic? Hopefully he will handle the situation maturely and accept things. Whatever the case is, you need to deliver in a clear manner a couple straight forward reasons why you are breaking up. Be very very clear and concise.
Now it’s time to drop the bomb. Do it in person, no phone calls, emails, texts or messenger birds. When you do pull the trigger it is very important to deliver the information and avoid having too much emotionally charged conversation. When a lot of time is spent rehashing things over and over, both of you can start to lose focus and that’s when things get ugly. Make sure you are sincere and truthful in your delivery and break it off completely. Do not soft sell him and tell him that you need time to think, that is just a copout.
Finally, stick to it. Don’t get lonely and call him a week later. No drunken 2 AM booty calls. Remember back to when some clown has done this to you in the past, ya, it sucks. You need to give it ample time before you speak or have any contact. You both need time to grieve.
Good luck ladies.
-The Guys
I like it. Some of it is common sense I guess, but it is easy to forget this stuff when things get emotional.
Comment by Gans — May 17, 2009 @ 8:09 pm
Thanks for the tips Guys! It does seem like common sense, but I think many people need reminding in the midst of emotional upheaval. Especially this one:
Finally, stick to it. Don’t get lonely and call him a week later. No drunken 2 AM booty calls. Remember back to when some clown has done this to you in the past, ya, it sucks. You need to give it ample time before you speak or have any contact. You both need time to grieve.
Comment by Bruised but not Broken — May 20, 2009 @ 1:21 pm
will you touch my hiney?
Comment by your mom — May 21, 2009 @ 11:32 am