Phone Games
Phone Games:
To Play Or Not To Play
Whether you like it or not the obnoxious games of who calls who, how many days and at what time to call, do I leave a voicemail, and text or no text are ALL HERE TO STAY. Everyone runs around saying they don’t like to play games, but truth be told they have become an important courting ritual. The way you play the phone game can mean the difference between seeming hard to get or desperate.
Guys and gals struggle with this equally. In our own experiences and research on this article it is clear that most people don’t know the basic rules of the game. You may be reading this thinking we are idiots and you would never dream of playing stupid reindeer games like this. Well ladies picture this: You meet a guy out at a party, he asks for your number, he’s hot, your pumped. Now, he doesn’t call you for 4 days, where does this leave you? It probably makes you nervous and anxious pondering the the 800,000 reasons why he hasn’t called. How about the other way around? He actually calls, but calls you at 9 am the next day. Hmmmm, you are probably thinking this guy is a stalker or crazy party guy that is still up from the night before. Either way it’s dicey.
Us guys go through this same crappy situation every time we get a number, go on a date or (if we are fortunate) a girl asks us for our number. We all hate it, but need it. Here are the ground rules.
Don’t call to soon, but don’t drag it out to far. It’s a delicate balance, so here are some safe time frames: If you meet a guy and get his number, wait one full day to call him. If you go on a first date and it seems like it went well, wait for him to call for 2 days before calling him.
Be careful with voice-mails. Don’t ramble on, keep it short and sweet. “Hey Jimmy it’s Carla, give me call back when you get this, bye.” Don’t leave questions, ideas, options or anything else that can be subjective. Do all of your talking live, not on voicemail.
Try not to text. Texting is tough, because you cannot tell peoples tone. A text may seem brash or curt when it was really meant to be the opposite. The subtleties of the conversation that let you know that romance is brewing cannot be communicated over text very well.
Reciprocate. If he calls you call him back. Don’t be a fool and put all kinds of added steps and stress into this that are not needed. Further if he texts you, then text him back. If he emails you, email him back. If he calls…you get the idea.
Finally, know when to cut it loose. If he doesn’t call you back after many days (i.e. a week), you can give one last call just to make sure he didn’t lose your number. Then cut it. If he doesn’t call back promptly after this, it’s over.
Good luck out there ladies. Remember to go easy the guys, we are just a bunch of Labradors trying to fumble through life.
I hate games. You guys are on drugs.
Comment by John — May 3, 2009 @ 8:40 pm